I am reading a very interesting book that I bought this morning. It is an introduction to Tantra. Tantra is a sanskrit word that means "loom" or "weaving". It has come across my path with my study in meditation. The book is very interesting and is about deepening relationships and sacred sexuality.
I came across a passage that had very significant meaning for me about "soul gazing". Now a few years ago a friend of mine and her husband attended a couples relationship workshop. When she got home, I remember her telling me that one of the most significant things that they did that really blew the top off the intimacy with her husband, was an exercise where they sat across from each other and simply looked deeply into one anothers eyes. I had forgotten all about her telling me that until this morning.
In Tantra, the belief is that the non dominant eye ( if you are right handed, it is your left eye and vice versa ) is the gateway to your soul. Now you don't have to worry about people inadvertently seeing what you don't want them to see just by sneaking a peak! Normally that gateway is pretty tightly closed. People in our society don't do a lot of prolonged gazing, it is just too intimate. How sad is that!
I know this because Autistic kids don't make much eye contact. In the beginning I tried to reinforce a lot of eye contact to teach him and then realized neurotypical people only make direct eye contact less than 40% of the time! Teaching him to always make eye contact made him stick out like a sore thumb because no one does that in real life. But if you are trying to increase the intimacy in your relationships, try spending a little more time with your significant other gazing into that sacred portal and you may be surprised what happens.
Even the phrase is beautiful, soul gazing. It sparked my interest because since I have started meditating, I always notice that my blind sight, or meditation vision is significantly impaired on my left. I have had mentors tell me that is my unwillingness to see my greater purpose, I have wondered myself if it was related to some blockage in my femininity ( right brain feminine controls the left side of the body). But as my knowledge about myself and my journey grows, I had a moment this morning where I wondered when I read this passage if it was about my having firmly locked that gate. About my unwillingness to bare my soul in the place that I have been the past three years.
As with most epiphanies on my journey, when I find the key to the lock the door opens easily and effortlessly. I am interested with this new awareness to see tonight when I meditate if that left side sight is clearing. I suspect it will be a process of learning to feel safe again. To be willing to open that portal to another soul. To be willing once again to open myself to intimacy with another human being.
I like that the word meaning is so interesting too. Studying Tantra seems so appropriate because weaving to me is about integration. About stringing the moments of your life on a loom with warp and weft threads as the framework and the process of learning and experience is about integrating all of the people you love and the lessons you learn until you create the most amazing, brilliant and unique tapestry. The fabric of your life. There will never be another cloth like it. A piece of art. Why not choose to make it the most high quality, intricate and facinating offering you can?
In love and light,
Kathryn
I came across a passage that had very significant meaning for me about "soul gazing". Now a few years ago a friend of mine and her husband attended a couples relationship workshop. When she got home, I remember her telling me that one of the most significant things that they did that really blew the top off the intimacy with her husband, was an exercise where they sat across from each other and simply looked deeply into one anothers eyes. I had forgotten all about her telling me that until this morning.
In Tantra, the belief is that the non dominant eye ( if you are right handed, it is your left eye and vice versa ) is the gateway to your soul. Now you don't have to worry about people inadvertently seeing what you don't want them to see just by sneaking a peak! Normally that gateway is pretty tightly closed. People in our society don't do a lot of prolonged gazing, it is just too intimate. How sad is that!
I know this because Autistic kids don't make much eye contact. In the beginning I tried to reinforce a lot of eye contact to teach him and then realized neurotypical people only make direct eye contact less than 40% of the time! Teaching him to always make eye contact made him stick out like a sore thumb because no one does that in real life. But if you are trying to increase the intimacy in your relationships, try spending a little more time with your significant other gazing into that sacred portal and you may be surprised what happens.
Even the phrase is beautiful, soul gazing. It sparked my interest because since I have started meditating, I always notice that my blind sight, or meditation vision is significantly impaired on my left. I have had mentors tell me that is my unwillingness to see my greater purpose, I have wondered myself if it was related to some blockage in my femininity ( right brain feminine controls the left side of the body). But as my knowledge about myself and my journey grows, I had a moment this morning where I wondered when I read this passage if it was about my having firmly locked that gate. About my unwillingness to bare my soul in the place that I have been the past three years.
As with most epiphanies on my journey, when I find the key to the lock the door opens easily and effortlessly. I am interested with this new awareness to see tonight when I meditate if that left side sight is clearing. I suspect it will be a process of learning to feel safe again. To be willing to open that portal to another soul. To be willing once again to open myself to intimacy with another human being.
I like that the word meaning is so interesting too. Studying Tantra seems so appropriate because weaving to me is about integration. About stringing the moments of your life on a loom with warp and weft threads as the framework and the process of learning and experience is about integrating all of the people you love and the lessons you learn until you create the most amazing, brilliant and unique tapestry. The fabric of your life. There will never be another cloth like it. A piece of art. Why not choose to make it the most high quality, intricate and facinating offering you can?
In love and light,
Kathryn
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