I have decided that self acceptance is the greatest gift any of us can give ourselves.
And I have enough people in my life grappling with this, that it is worthy of a blog post (yes I mean you LOL). Many of us hide essential parts of who we are inside because we believe that those parts are not lovable. Not acceptable. Not okay.
So many of us wrestle with "should's".
I "should" be this, or I "should" want that.
Or worse yet, " I should not" need or want what I do. Here's the bottom line.
Guilt Is the result of a belief and a behaviour not being aligned.
We have two choices. Change the belief, or change the behaviour and the guilt cannot continue. Now don't get me wrong here. I am not talking capital offenses! I mean things like our sexuality, our roles, the things we believe are good or bad about ourselves based on the perceived judgements of others.
I have a beloved friend who has always struggled with her role as a mother, and another her role as a wife. Which manual do you think you are not following? And if you say "their" manual, who the heck are they? Who are those people who believe that the experience and expression of every individual needs to follow the same template, the same path?
The very fabric of each and every human being is unique and beautiful, and integrates how we express our sexuality, our emotions, our behaviour towards others. Why do we feel the need to so harshly condemn ourselves, or to do the same to others?
When we can cultivate a climate of tolerance for our differences, the world will shift. But the only way to do that is to start at the center of our own hearts and change it there first. So I ask you, what can you see inside yourself right this moment that deserves that gift?
In love and light,
Kathryn
And I have enough people in my life grappling with this, that it is worthy of a blog post (yes I mean you LOL). Many of us hide essential parts of who we are inside because we believe that those parts are not lovable. Not acceptable. Not okay.
So many of us wrestle with "should's".
I "should" be this, or I "should" want that.
Or worse yet, " I should not" need or want what I do. Here's the bottom line.
Guilt Is the result of a belief and a behaviour not being aligned.
We have two choices. Change the belief, or change the behaviour and the guilt cannot continue. Now don't get me wrong here. I am not talking capital offenses! I mean things like our sexuality, our roles, the things we believe are good or bad about ourselves based on the perceived judgements of others.
I have a beloved friend who has always struggled with her role as a mother, and another her role as a wife. Which manual do you think you are not following? And if you say "their" manual, who the heck are they? Who are those people who believe that the experience and expression of every individual needs to follow the same template, the same path?
The very fabric of each and every human being is unique and beautiful, and integrates how we express our sexuality, our emotions, our behaviour towards others. Why do we feel the need to so harshly condemn ourselves, or to do the same to others?
When we can cultivate a climate of tolerance for our differences, the world will shift. But the only way to do that is to start at the center of our own hearts and change it there first. So I ask you, what can you see inside yourself right this moment that deserves that gift?
In love and light,
Kathryn
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