I am smiling this morning. The Universe has an incredible sense of humour. And sometimes, the joke is on me! One of the lessons that has come up for me again ( I must not have quite got it the first time) is the lesson of relationship mirrors.
The concept of relationship mirrors goes something like this. In a nutshell, what you call people out on is usually your stuff, not theirs. We cannot see something within another person or their behaviour if it does not first exist within us. If we didn't have it, we couldn't see it. Being aware enough to catch it in the moment is a whole nother deal. But even being able to see it after the fact, brings awareness and the possibility of doing things differently to be in better relationships. Isn't that the goal for all of us?
I am very blessed in my life to be surrounded by so many profound teachers. I find myself getting clearer and clearer about speaking my truth and less worried about what others will think about that. Through this process of learning I realize I am less tempted to "fix" other people and more content to accept them just as they are. It has been another recurring theme for me of meeting people who somehow need to mold me or change things about me. I realize that at 41, it has taken me a lot of work to get where I am and that I truly like what I see when I look in the mirror. I am not a "fixer upper". I don't think any of us are. Each of us follows our own path in that neck high field of waving grass. All we can see is a see of heads when we scan the horizon, but rest assured at the feet of each, is a stone path to follow. And none but that person can see it.
That is the key. No one but you can tell if you are on your path, so don't let others try to direct you. You are the only master of your ship. Learn to understand how Spirit communicates with you, and trust your own intuition.
The mindful process for me is that it is so much easier to be the teacher than the student, and to be a true master, you must always remain both. You must be as open to learning about yourself as you are to teaching others.
I had an amazing moment at the yoga meditation retreat I attended this weekend that spoke directly about that. I was on my way to meditate in the labyrinth when I spotted a white feather on the ground. For me that has always been a symbol from the divine. I never pass one by. Carrying my feather, I walked further on and a small stone caught my eye. I bent and picked it up. At the entrance to the labyrinth I paused and began a prayer of gratitude and in that instant I had the flash. It is to learn to live between the feather and the rock. The greatest lesson is that of balance. Balance in all things. To learn to live wide open. To burst into blossom. To receive as well as give, so as not to block the beautiful flow of abundance that wants to come to each one of us. To speak our truth and listen carefully to those that matter in our lives to be able to gain perspective. Seek first to understand, and then to be understood. A difficult lesson for me in particular. Perhaps for all of us. I find in my own life I am usually still trying to be understood first. But I am working on it. A beautiful work in progress.
I left my offerings, my rock and my feather in the center of the labyrinth in gratitude, but I took the beautiful insight I gained as my gift. In each and every relationship in my life, may my ears and my heart be open to hearing what you have to share without assuming I already know. For with that assumption, why would you even need to show up at all?
In love and light,
Kathryn
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